Guest Post: It’s Okay To Not Be Okay:

Navigating this ‘new normal’ in uncertain times

There is so much going on in the world right now and much of it is daunting and downright scary. Every day we’re hearing in the news about Covid 19 hotspots and state-mandated lockdowns. To find yourself in the middle of isolation and quarantine can make you feel disheartened and helpless at times. It’s one thing to contend with an enemy that you can see—but it’s something altogether different to attempt to fight and “Invisible Enemy”. 

When I scroll through social media timelines, it looks like so many people have it all together right now. They have become Zoom masters — and they are cranking out webinars left and right, they have rhinestone-studded face masks and they take selfies in Target with rare, coveted, MegaPack rolls of Charmin toilet tissue in-hand, they show the pictures of themselves going on tranquil canoe rides looking #unbothered. And then even gloat about scoring Family-sized bottles of hand sanitizer on Amazon.

A few months ago none of that would have mattered to me.

But fast-forward to today, when I’m down to my last 3 rolls of toilet tissue…I find myself feeling a bit introspective. As I sit here immersed in my thoughts, I’m realizing that about 80% of me is doing okay—but 20% of me, not so much. I’m coming to terms with the fact that things may never be “the same” again. I miss being able to go to the mall and spray 7 bottles of Bath & Body Works body mists on my wrists before choosing just the right scent. I miss going into my favorite Chinese restaurant and fumbling with the chopsticks while eating Chicken & Broccoli. I miss getting a professional mani & pedi, I miss having the first part of my days dedicated to work and business meetings (Now that’s been replaced with me being a Home School elementary teacher. #OhJoy).

I miss chit-chatting with my neighbors in person. I miss being able to breathe deeply—without worrying if an infectious disease will hijack my lungs—if I happen to be out at the wrong place at the wrong time. 

But if I keep focusing on the things that I miss, I’ll lose sight of the blessing that I currently have. And if I’m honest with myself, I have so much to be thankful for!

I’m blessed with life, love, health & strength. Who could ask for anything more?!

My message is primarily for Entrepreneurs, Creative Artists, and Dreamers.

I want you to know that you are an amazing human being!

Yes—this is an unprecedented crisis we’re all facing, but we are (already) equipped with the innate ability to persevere and to survive.

Remember this:

This is anything but easy, but you are anything but weak.

So, now let’s turn our focus to the upside of all of this:

  • We have extra time on our hands to devote to personal and professional development.

(Researchers have found that we now have an extra 2-2 and a half hours each day, due to quarantine. So, be sure to use your time wisely and productively!)

  • We have some extra time on our hands to knock out some much-needed Spring Cleaning!
  • There’s never been a better time to get caught up on reading some of our favorite books and magazines. 
  • Health is wealth! We have an opportunity to become more intentional maintaining healthier lifestyles!

If we are honest with ourselves, we have a lot to be grateful for—probably more than we can enumerate! That said, during this difficult time, we can keep a daily Gratitude Journal. 

Before we go to bed each night, we can jot down at least 10 things that we have to be grateful for. By doing so, we’ll become more intentional about keeping Positivity top of mind!

  • We have technology that keeps us all connected.
  • We have an opportunity to reset and get centered.

Any time someone is facing a challenge that is very difficult to process, especially when there doesn’t seem to and a definitive “end date” in sight, a person can feel overwhelmed.

When you are in the middle of a crisis everything may not feel like sunshine and roses every day. It’s okay to own the fact that you are not feeling okay. In those times, I would suggest that you (virtually) reach out to loved ones, relatives, friends, neighbors, church members, a mentor or a counselor. The key is to strengthen your support group right now.

Sometimes I can fool myself into thinking that I am Super Woman—but this Coronavirus Crisis has made it abundantly clear to me that I am not!

Even still I’ve managed to remain positive and productive!

I am here for myself, my family, my business and my community in the best way that I know how. I am learning how to strike a work/life balance. And I am striving to become a better version of myself…every single day!

I acknowledge the fact that I am human, and as such, I will become frustrated and disheartened from time to time, but I also am cognizant of the fact that I don’t have to stay in that low place. I can put on some upbeat music to lift my spirits. I can pray and meditate to calm my central nervous system and I can reach out to friends and family when I need to feel more connected. 

To you I would say: It’s okay not to feel okay. It’s natural.

BUT the key is that you don’t stay in a gloomy place for long.

  • —>Refocus you energy on a higher vibration
  • —>Go outside and take a brisk walk
  • —>Talk a relaxing bath (with lavendar essential oils)

And if need be,

Contact a Crisis hotline if you can’t seem to shake your sulleness: 

  • 1-844-549-4266 {Mental Health Line}
  • 1-800-273-8255 [National Suicide Prevention Lifeline]
  • Text HOME to 741741 [Pandemic Crisis Text Line]

In closing, I want to encourage you to keep your head up! Keep the main thing the main thing. Stay focused on your goals and aspirations, build in time for Self-Care, always believe in the power of your dreams, keep the Faith and remember to BREATHE. You got this!

Love & Light,

Tawanna Chamberlain “The Posh Publicist”

The Posh Publicist

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